When we have a specific problem we create change first by facing the current situation.
The first step is to face your problem. Sometimes it is the emotional pain about the problem that motivates us to do the hard work towards change. What is the specific hardship (in the relationship, in your internal experience, in your life…) that is causing you to seek change?
The next step: Face your aspiration. It is crucial to define what you do want. What would your life look like if you achieved your goal? What would you be doing differently? What would you experience?
And finally: Face the next step – the smallness of it, the difficulty of it, what will it take to do it. Small steps. Often, all we know and all we need to know is what is the next small step.
Big Picture: It’s also important to look at what we want on a larger scale. Part of the work of therapy is to face your larger desires. Face your dream. Face who you are and who you are not.
What makes you happy and nourishes you, giving you strength and inspiration? What do you want to create? What is your life for? What is it not for? This kind of big picture clarity and vision is necessary to give you the motivation to change.