When we meet, I’ll ask you what’s led you to come to therapy. I’ll ask you a few questions about yourself and your family. Sometimes during the first few sessions people aren’t quite sure what they’re looking for, what they want to focus on and what they want to achieve in therapy. Developing this clarity is important. Usually in the first few weeks, in the process of getting to know each other and as you become more comfortable talking to me about yourself, this clarity – what we’re here to do and to achieve – is established.
Therapy is a collaboration. I have my expertise and you have yours. I will never know as much as you can know about yourself. In fact, one of the greatest potential achievements of therapy is to know yourself. To know, to accept, to love – your self. And so to be able to use your self to create a life that you love and live it well. You are the only person who will be with you every moment of your life, from the first moment you were here on this earth, until the last.
This work is done through addressing whatever problems you came in to solve. The solutions we find together will involve increased self knowledge and self acceptance. Sometimes they’ll also involve being tough with yourself. In fact this can be very important – learning to be tough with yourself while also increasing self acceptance.
There are some approaches and themes that I regularly use and you can read more about them by using drop down menu on the black bar above.